Psychotherapy is an open invitation to turn your attention inwards and give importance to all that may arise. Life does not always offer us the opportunity to do so and there can be all kinds of conscious, but also unconscious motivations to refrain from it. Hence, paying attention to our inner world requires a lot of courage, but also space, time and the other. Therapy provides a framework for these conditions. For a short time if that should suffice, but as long as needed until you can realize this for yourself and in contact with others.
During psychotherapy treatment we learn more about the way you think and feel about yourself, others and the world. It is not a matter of right and wrong or about passing judgement. Instead, we will focus on the specific ways in which you’ve learned to give meaning to reality and to better understand what this costs and brings you in life. These insights can gradually result in gaining more freedom to broaden your views, obtain different perspectives and to experience less rigidity in your behaviour. By being in touch with your inner world, you will be better equipped to shape a life in which you are true to yourself without losing sight of others. Our collaboration offers a relational practice space for this.
You probably have the idea that psychotherapy is about the past. And in a way, that is indeed the case. Yet this doesn’t mean that we will be revisiting the past. The material we work with is situated in the here and now; in the patterns that are expressed throughout daily life and show themselves during our time together in treatment. Of course what we encounter tells us a lot about your development. In this way threads can arise between past and present and a coherent story about your life gradually forms.
Psychotherapy is about you as a whole and not just about the complaints you experience. That may not quite fit with the urgency you feel when you’ve suffered from mental health problems for a long time, daily and in several areas of your life. Therefore, treatment is not without frustrations and requires commitment, perseverance and patience at these times. As a therapist I can help you access your inner strengths and endure the pressure of suffering. In doing so, I will always try to remind you of your treatment goals.
Quick solutions are tempting and easily promised, yet not always realistic and sufficient. Psychotherapy is not about solutions and is not aimed at taking away feelings of grief, pain and mourning. Rather, its endeavour is increasing your mental capacity and confidence in yourself. The treatment roads will look different for everyone and so every psychotherapy requires a tailored approach. Please feel welcome to contact me regarding your situation, even if you are unsure whether psychotherapy is suitable for you.